Masturbation App to Learn About Your Clit

Firstly, we need to clear the air around the misconception that men are hornier than women. I hear these generalizations all the time in TV shows, movies, songs, and even from instructors: men are hardwired to think about sex. Western culture has been perpetuating this myth for centuries and found the need to carry it over into the new millennium. Its too simple to recall the thousands of stupid science articles out there that reinforce this ideological belief. The way some of these doctors write about sex you’d think that each time a woman is down the planets have magically aligned. I’ve always known the truth and finally science caught up to me: women are not less sexual than men. Yes, there is a significant more social and cultural pressure on women to be ashamed of their sexuality, but they are not lesser; women are just a bit different.

Modern scientific evidence claims that unlike men, women are naturally polyamorous. In fact, long-term monogamy has been proven to reduce the female libido. Additionally, women can have more enjoyable sex with themselves if they know what they are doing. Of course to each his/her own. I know quite a bit of men and women who like sex but don’t love it. Truth is, each individual is allowed to have their cake and eat it when they’re in the mood.

I’m curious when we are finally going to get over the gross oversimplification that men are porn-loving sex machines who prefer  casual sex and women are simply fucking so they can finally have a baby. While my adolescent male peers were jerking off to strategically waxed and oiled pornstars, the girl world proved to be just as sex-obsessed. But instead of drooling over videos, my female contemporaries were flooding chatrooms and luring people of all ASL’s into cybersex. We too were freaks, but we weren’t allowed to fly our flags without being labeled sluts, whores, or skanks by our own friends! Instead of using our dad’s computer to look up penetration videos, we used our imaginations and pseudonyms to explore our sexuality.

All of these discrepancies boil down to the genitals and masturbation. Men have a pretty easy time figuring out what feels good. They are socialized to love their dinkies, peepees, penises, whatever your mom called it, whereas women have a more difficult time. We are told from the earliest age that the vagina is where the baby comes from. I remember as a young girl thinking my vagina was a huge mystery. Every time I tried to look at it I would panic thinking the baby that was ordained to exit me would rip me into two. The day I figured out that babymaker had the potential to feel amazing I was baffled. No one told me it could feel good. I became equally disgusted as obsessed with my genitals. I kind of figured that as a girl, your boobs were your penis. So imagine my surprise when I found all the snot in my underpants and asked my mom why my vagina was running. Despite my eagerness to understand, I would have to wait another 10 years to figure out that goodness was not snot.

Now imagine if men and women were equal, (and not “equal” in the skill, ambition, talent, or ability department,) and sexual entities who loved to fuck and were not reprimanded for that desire. In this world, daughters and moms would trade clit tricks, gossip about vibrators, and brag about casual encounters over strangely awkward fishing trips. The world does not eagerly await this day.

Culture really refutes the possibility that women are equal and this translates to the supposedly objective field of science. A simple examination of the language surrounding reproduction and contraception is the easiest evidence to this argument, especially in the constructed fairy tale between the lovelorn sperm and lonely egg. “The Egg and Sperm: How Science Has Constructed a Romance Based on Stereotypical Male-Female Roles” by Emily Martin is an obvious example of this argument. In her essay, Martin examines supposedly unbiased science writing and diagrams. In these myths, sperm has all the characteristics of a Rambo Warrior who against all conceivable odds overcomes the obstacles and horrors of the female reproductive system to penetrate the passive egg who has been eagerly awaiting his arrival for a month until she gives up and is flushed away to die alone.

Even the rewritings of this fairytale have been proven flawed. Around the 80s, scientists realized that sperm does not posses free will. Once scientists realized that sperm contained zero existential purpose after being expunged from the testes, science began incorporating alternative interpretations. Sperm’s tails were proven too weak to successfully penetrate the much larger and stronger female gametes. Science woke up from the fantasy of Rambo-sperm and agreed that the egg and sperm are mutual partners. The two posses complimentary adhesive molecules which work harmoniously in reproduction.

So why do we still get articles like this from scientists? Perhaps its because the male authors of these kinds of articles have been reading research that proves only what its looking for (this tendency is called the Observer Effect in physics). A lot of research testing arousal and libido is conducted in a stuffy lab environment which does not really encourage women to feel safe or be honest. Nor do any of these research articles test the amount of female discharge in panties. Truth be told, the more qualitative research we do on culturally scripted understandings of sexuality, the more we are going to prove the consequences of culture.

This is where I step back from my rant, take a deep breath, and look towards the planets aligning. Some women have even been having satisfying orgasms on their own terms with their own hands. More and more women-produced cultural products are celebrating and educating women on the underrated and undervalued clitoris, which according to the Museum of Sex in NYC, was only truly discovered by scientists in 2009.

Considering it’s only been 4 years since we figured out what the heck is going on with women “down there,” why aren’t there buttloads of scientists running to the lab to test this? Could if be because the unlocked potentials of female sexuality could unravel the fabric of social order? I’d love to see where all the research grants and bursaries are going.

Regardless, feminist resistance prevails with more and more playfulness. HappyPlayTime is a instructional video game that is geared towards reducing the shame and guilt attributed to female masturbation. You won’t find this kind of info in a stuff sex ed class or textbook. The makers have constructed the game to teach female anatomy as the cute animated vagina coos and giggles as you play with her. That infographics around the game are pretty astonishing too. The research behind HappyPlayTime proves that the earlier women begin masturbating, the less arousal difficulties later in life, the more orgasms during intercourse. And all the stats are peer reviewed! This isn’t a mother know’s best type of psychology . . . it’s been conducted by Indiana University’s National Survey of Sexual Health and Behaviour. It’s real science, boys.

In conclusion, I encourage every woman of earth to masturbate because you’re worth it.

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